After you, your spouse and your kids, if you have any, have wrapped your head around divorce, it may be time to tell your family members and then your friends. Informing your friends about your divorce may be as challenging as talking to your parents and siblings, especially those you are close with.
Here are three things to keep in mind when holding a conversation with your friends:
Don’t make them feel like they have to choose sides
The difference between telling family members and friends about your divorce is that the latter may feel like they need to pick sides, especially those you made during your marriage. Thus, make it clear that they can still be friends with both of you and be diplomatic during the conversation – do not blame the divorce on your spouse.
Provide your closest friend(s) with more information
Chances are you confide in your closest friends. They may have known about the issues in your marriage. Thus, when telling them about your divorce, you can give them more details.
Talk to your casual friends
You may want to avoid discussing your divorce with casual friends since you don’t interact with them often. While this may be a good idea, it can be challenging when they ask you about your spouse when you run into them. Thus, consider letting them know you are getting a divorce to avoid awkwardness during your next gathering.
You don’t need to give them details. You can simply tell them you are going through a divorce and will appreciate it if they respect your privacy.
Telling your closest and casual friends about your divorce may be necessary. You should also get legal help to understand the process.
