Divorce often evokes visions of fiery yet fruitless battles that leave at least one party feeling like they just lost everything they hold dear. Indiana judges require fair and just divorce provisions, but what if your spouse tries to strongarm negotiations?
Even with court protections, unfair property or even child-related orders could pass under the radar. Adopting a spirit of cautious compromise might help reduce the risk of a less-than-favorable outcome. Here are some tips for compromising without getting steamrolled.
Know your worth
Before any negotiations begin, get a clear picture of your financial assets, debts and future needs. Do your research on marital property, spousal support and child-related laws in Indiana. That way, you will better understand what is at stake throughout negotiations.
Decide what matters
Are you most concerned about child custody and support or getting the marital property you need to survive and thrive? Make a list in order of importance and prepare to be flexible on lower-priority items. A practical approach may help you stay focused on your priorities and encourage your spouse to consider a compromise.
Don’t do it on your own
Try not to feel discouraged if the idea of negotiating with your spouse intimidates you. After all, it is tough to hash things out when pain, anger and other emotions are in the way. Legal representation can help you remember your priorities and safeguard what you treasure most when working with your spouse.
Compromising is not the same as giving up and need not lead to a poor divorce outcome. When approached cautiously and with guidance, it can safeguard what you deserve without unduly risking what you love.