Should I tell my boss I’m getting a divorce?

On Behalf of | Jan 3, 2022 | Divorce

Going through a divorce can be a stressful situation that impacts many areas of your life. While you may physically be able to go to work and accomplish your assigned duties, it could be challenging.

In addition to the emotional impact your divorce may have, you may also find yourself needing time off to take care of some of the logistical matters that come with divorce.

Here’s what you should consider when deciding what to say to your boss about your divorce.

Consider their temperament

Some bosses and managers are more understanding and forgiving when you have things in your personal life that could impact your work. While some might be willing to allow for changes in performance or attendance, others may not be as forgiving.

You will need to tell your boss that you are going through a divorce, but how you approach it may depend on their personality.

When it is time to have a conversation with your boss, try to stick to the facts. Getting an unsympathetic boss in a discussion about the messy complications of your divorce could be more than your boss wants to know.

Commitment with flexibility

When you talk to your boss, let them know that you are still committed to doing your job and doing it well. Still, you may simply need some flexibility when it comes to the logistics of your divorce. Assure them you will give them ample notice when you have upcoming court dates or other obligations.

Talk to HR

Human resources is a separate department from your direct manager for many businesses. Talking to human resources is another essential conversation that should be on your to-do list.

Your divorce could impact your retirement, insurance or other benefits at work, and your human resources representative will need to help you make the appropriate adjustments.

Trying to sort out your divorce while maintaining your performance at work can be a challenge. You may need time off both emotionally and logistically, so talking to your employer is an essential part of the process.

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